This year we are slaying this demon of low-self esteem, low-confidence. Hello and welcome back to my blogs, I am glad to have ya here.
I want to write about this epidemic of men and women battling this notion that they are not enough. We are living in an age where the personal parts of people’s lives are public, and what is public is curated, so it is hard to know what is real or not real. Speaking for myself, I used to feel that the accolades, my achievements, qualifications, who I worked for, the content I made and the engagement of said content, made me worthy enough for a person’s attention. Insane right? Or is it?
If clicks, views and engagement is the goal, our lives are becoming opportunities for content, rather than content being a by-product of living our lives. What this means is we are presenting this outward online version of confidence, achievements and busyness, which I thought was my golden ticket to acceptance at the very least, and admiration at best – who does not want to be thought highly of?
Now, not everyone falls into this category, social media is after all an integral part of folks businesses. But I want to talk to the person who is looking at social media and thinking, my life is so far away from (insert a person’s social handle). You could be comparing your physique, your lifestyle, your job, friends, even how other people use their time. My sis, my bro, you are becoming and enough all at the same time.
None of us have arrived, we are all journeying. The bar for ‘worthy of receiving human dignity and respect’ has not gotten higher. You are loved and chosen whether you are in the valley or on the mountain, and your self worth is not tied to what season of life you are in. Though in your face, do not let social media fool you, lest you fall in to a trap of comparison. You do not need to ‘prove’ yourself via social media to anyone.
The realness is…We all have life experiences that knock our confidence, deeply painful situations that make us feel like nothing and no-one. The truth is though, there is only one you. Fearfully and wonderfully made, and your uniqueness dies when you operate from a place of low self-esteem/worth. Not only that, your gifts and talents are also suffocating under the weight of an expectation rooted in paralysing fear of not being good enough… did someone say imposter syndrome?!
Don’t worry if folks don’t choose you, or understand you; that’s okay. Picking yourself up from rejection and regulating our emotions accordingly is something we ought to get used to when we are putting ourselves out there in the world. The point of this blog was to expose the enemy and his plan to stop you because you do not feel worthy, loved, good enough etc; a destiny stealing tactic to keep you stuck.
My friend, it is time to get unstuck and to start believing in yourself again. Get your confidence back by filling up your cup with the things that you love, spending time with loved ones, getting in the gym/movement, start eating healthily again, (key) decrease your screentime, pray often, fast, read the Bible and find out who God says you are.
Tings fi do in this life mkayyy! You got this.
Love,
Dominique
